Last update Wed Dec 5, 2012
Want to find out more about polyamory?
Links aimed at therapists and health-care professionals who want to learn more about polyamory are at the bottom of the list. You can find a list of polyamory books here.
Headquarters for the Polyamory Weekly Podcast, a weekly talk show on all things poly. Includes listener call-ins and interviews with many people in the poly community.
The pulse of the polyamory movement: Essays, articles, and interviews about polyamory. A great resource site.
My Poly Place
A FaceBook for poly folks. Want to know how to meet polyamorous people? Look here!
A blog by a single polyamorous person covering "Life, relationships, and dating as a free agent"
Curated list of poly links and resources
Alan's List of Polyamory Events
Compiled by the same person who does Polyamory in the Media below, this is an often-updated list of polyamory-related conferences, workshops, and events going on all over the globe.
The Inn Between: Polyamory Pages
Essays, safe-sex articles, advice on "coming out" poly, and other resources for polyamorous people, written by a partner of mine.
Poly Group Registry
A user-updated list of local polyamory social and support groups throughout the the world. If you're looking for a local poly group, this is a good place to start!
Poly Events All Over
A user-updated list of polyamory-related conventions and events worldwide.
Love Is Infinite
Frank, open, personal blog about polyamory and poly-related experiences from the inside.
Pragmatic, hands-on blog of poly-related information, such as polyamory and religion, polyamory and the law, and polyamory and children.
Dear Polly Amorie
Blog of a poly woman in Canada, covering everything from advice to legal matters affecting Canadian polyamorists.
Poly in Pictures
A polyamory-themed Web comic and blog, following the adventures of a poly stick figure.
Web site for the Tampa, Florida-based poly group.
An extensive "portal site" containing articles, links, a poly message board, forums, and so on.
The Ordinary Extraordinary
A Weblog and journal of a polyamorous couple and their lives.
Poly Friend Finder
A dating and matchmaking Web site for people seeking honest, ethical non-monogamous relationships.
What Polyamory Looks Like
A site where poly folks can post a glimpse into how their poly relationship structures work, giving insight into the wide variety of forms polyamory can take.
Web-based chatroom for polyamory discussion.
Poly in the Media
This blog tracks references to polyamory and articles about polyamory in news media.
The Polyamorous Misanthrope
Rants, Raves and Polyamorous Edification for the Whole Family. An often-updated collection of essays on practical, no-nonsense, hands-on polyamory.
The only nationwide magazine dedicated to polyamory, Loving More also hosts conferences and poly retreats throughout the country.
Polyamory for the Practical
Large and frequently-updated site maintained by the members of a long-term poly family. Includes a poly Web comic, and RSS feeds. Note: Still available but no longer updated.
Musings on Bisexuality, Polyamory, Jealousy, ActivismSome clear, intelligent thoughts on polyamory, jealousy, and related issues.
Some Thoughts on Polyamory
A balanced, well-reasoned rant on the subject--if "balanced" and "well-reasoned" can be said to go along with a rant. Includes a bit of ranting on the subject of some people who claim to be poly but shouldn't.
A Web site designed to foster increased communication, networking and support between polyamorous folks in the southeastern US.
News, information, discussion, and resources, particularly for people who aren't necessarily poly but know people who are.
A large, international online forum for people interested in polyamory.
Poly Meaning A personal essay on what polyamory means, and the distinction between polyamory and swinging.
A poly-focused dating and forum site.
Site for PolyCamp NW, a large annual poly get-together.
Creating a Line-Family
A site with information for folks interested in multigenerational line families.
How to Educate your Therapist About Polyamory
Guidelines for talking to a counsellor or therapist about poly-related issues.
What Psychology Professionals should Know about Polyamory
PDF file put together by the NCSF to educate psychology professionals about polyamory.
Therapy with Clients who are Bisexual and Polyamorous
Written for therapists, this page discusses therapy in a bisexual and poly context.
Legitimizing Alternative Sexualities in Psychology
A short overview of the Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities (CARAS) and its role in helping therapists deal with non-traditional relationships.
A searchable database of poly-friendly professionals of all sorts, from medical to legal to clergy.
Working with polyamorous clients in the clinical setting
Article published in the Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality about therapy involving clients who are in ethical non-monogamous relationships.
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Sex At Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships
This is not, strictly speaking, a book about polyamory. Instead, it's a wildly entertaining, meticulously researched tretise on the origins of human sexuality and the things that make us relate the way we do. The authors challenge the assumptions of monogamy as a norm for human relationships, in a provocative and fun-to-read way.
Open All the Way: Confessions From My Open Marriage
Sadie Smythe is a well-known blogger who writes openly, frankly, and compellingly about her experiences in opening her long-term marriage. In this book, she documents the ups and downs, the lessons, th pitfalls, and the happiness of her own journey from monogamy to non-monogamy. This entertaining book is good reading for anyone seeking to open their own marriage.
Love in Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships
Written by a professional relationship counselor, this book focuses on strategies for communication, negotiation, partner selection, and conflict resolution in polyamorous relationships. Written for people in non-monogamous relationships, but also likely to be useful to other counselors and therapists who want to learn more about non-monogamy.
Love Unlimited: The Joys and Challenges of Open Relationships
This book is an overview of several different kinds of non-monogamous relationships, put together from interviews with 12 different non-monogamous families. Each section contains ideas, relationship agreements, and tools that these families developed on the way to building their relationships.
The Art and Etiquette of Polyamory: A Hands-on Guide to Open Sexual Relationships
Another personal narrative, this book describes the author's process to coming to her own polyamorous arrangement, and talks about the rules and ideas that keep her relationships healthy and happy. It's written from a very specific perspective (long-term couples who want lovers on the side), and as such describes only one particular kind of polyamory. It offers practical suggestins and how-tos for couples looking to arrange non-monogamous relationships.
The Polyamory Handbook: A User's Guide
This book is intended as a pragmatic approach to polyamory, covering topics like communication, emotional growth, sexual health, raising a poly family with children, and legal issues such as wills. Written mostly from a perspective of an established couple adding partners.
Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
Part anecdote, part interviews with poly couples, part advice, this wonderful book is an outstanding answer to the question "So how do you make non-monogamy work, anyway?" Through interviews with folks practicing a wide variety of different forms of non-monogamy, this book covers several styles of polyamory, swinging, and even polyamory for single people. There's a companion blog as well.
The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities by Dossie Easton and Catherine Lizst
Considered by many people to be one of the definitive guides to "responsible non-monogamy." While it does not really discuss polyamory per se, but rather polysexuality--the practice of multiple sexual partners in an ethical framework--this book is a good read for anyone interested in polyamory. Published by Greenery Press.
Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage
This book is a personal narrative of one "average girl next door" who just so happens to be in an open relationship. The book covers the ins and outs of her own relationship, the lessons she's learned along the way, and examines why its still more socially acceptable to cheat than to be polyamorous.
Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful
Written with humor, wit, and style by a person with twenty years' experience in polyamorous relationships, this book is a guidebook to the benefits, pitfalls, mistakes, and rewards of a poly life. Covers many of the mistakes the author has made without flinching, and lays out a roadmap for successful polyamorous relationships.
The Sex And Love Handbook: Polyamory! Bisexuality! Swingers! Spirituality! & Even Monogamy! A Practical Optimistic Relationship Guide by Kris A. Heinlein and Rozz M. Heinlein
This book, an overview of many relationship styles and sexual practices, explores the emotions, philosophies, risks and rewards of non-traditional sexual and romantic relationships. Written in an optimistic, enthusiastic style, it presents a wide range of relationship models engagingly and honestly.
This book explores the realities of day-in, day-out non-monogamy, particularly as a conscious political and social act. It's direct, in your face, and offers excellent insight on managing problems like jealousy.
The Myth of Monogamy: Fidelity and Infedelity in Animals and People by David P. Barash and Judith Eve Lipton
Written by a husband and wife team of behavioral scientists, this book explores non-monogamy from a behavioral, genetic, and moral standpoint. The book is not hostile to monogamy, but it makes the statement that in humans, relationship model is a matter of both biology and choice, and that monogamy is not more inherently "natural" than non-monogamy.
Polyamory in the 21st Century: Love and Intimacy with Multiple Partners
A followup to Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits (listed below), this book is a retrospective on Dr. Anapol's life as a poly activist. While it has some sections that are likely to be useful to newcomers, this isn't really a book aimed at those new to poly; instead, it's a collection of Dr. Anapol's personal experiences in polyamorous relationships.
The New Intimacy: Open-Ended Marriage and Alternative Lifestyles
This book advertises itself as "for non-traditionalists, those ready for new life and love affirmations." The Rev. Dr. Ron Mazur has been an ordained minister, a university health educator, a clinical sexologist in private practice, and a pioneer in computer on-line networks.
The Lesbian Polyamory Reader
A collection of stories, poetry, and essays on non-monogamous lesbian relationships, together with descriptions of solid frameworks for ethical non-monogamy.
Written by a psychologist, this book examines the traditional concept of marriage in a society where divorce is altogether common.
Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits by Dr. Deborah T. Anapol
This book focuses more on polyfidelity than on other kinds of polyamory, with a heavy emphasis on New Age spirituality, and is often recommended by those who combine polyamory and spirituality.
The Seven Natural Laws of Love by Dr. Deborah T. Anapol
This book draws from thousands of interviews to try to create a set of rules which govern all loving relationships regardless of their form.
Recommended by an online visitor; I don't know much about this book personally, but it's received excellent reviews.