Work and Play
I am a writer, a computer programmer, and a sexuality educator. I am coauthor of the book More Than Two: A practical guide to ethical polyamory and author of The Game Changer: A memoir of disruptive love.
I am a serial entrepreneur and own or co-own several businesses, including Tacit Assumptions, the parent company of Symtoys and maker of the sex game Onyx; Thorntree Press, a publishing company specializing in non-fiction books about alternative sexualities; and Tacit Pleasures, a tech startup investigating ways to use nonsurgical neural stimulation to assist trans* people in having the experience of a body that matches their sexual identity. I speak at conferences and events about polyamory, ethics, BDSM, and human sexuality.
I've been a computer hacker since the late 1970's, when I got my first TRS-80 Model I (and a 300 baud modem!).
Religion and Philosophy
I'm an atheist, which means I have never seen any compelling reason to believe that there is a god or gods running around taking an interest in human activities, and I don't make a habit of believing things without some sort of reason to suppose that they are true.
I am a transhumanist. I believe that the universe operates according to principles which are knowable, observable, and comprehensible; and that rational and analytical thought, combined with experimentation and empirical observation, are tools with which those fundamental principles can be understood. I believe that constantly challenging ideas, including these ideas, is a necessary and vital part of understanding the natural world, and that those who do not challenge their own ideas are fundamentally and fatally handicapped in their ability to progress.
I am a BDSM switch (a who what? Visit my BDSM page if that doesn't make sense to you); I'm mostly dominant, but not always.
Want to know more? Read my online Web journal!